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The Word is LOVE!

Pour les couples pressés de se séparer après que la passion soit terminée, ou lancer la serviette sur votre couple parce que tout n’est pas « parfait ». Une vie de couple n’est pas ce que la plupart des gens imaginent. On ne se lève pas tous les matins pour préparer le déjeuner et manger ensemble. Ce n’est pas se serrer dans nos bras au lit jusqu’au moment de s’endormir tous les deux. Ce n’est pas une maison propre, remplie de rires et d’amour chaque jour.

C’est quelqu’un qui tire sur les couvertures continuellement et ronfle. Des portes claquées et quelques mots durs parfois. C’est être obstinément en désaccord et ne pas se parler jusqu’à ce que vos cœurs guérissent, et se pardonner pas la suite. C’est revenir chez vous et voir la même personne tous les jours, à cause de qui vous êtes, vous aime et se soucie de vous. C’est rire de la fois où vous avez fait quelque chose de stupide. C’est à cause du linge sale et du lit non fait. C’est à cause de s’entraider dans la vie. C’est avaler les mots blessants au lieu de les dire à voix haute. C’est manger le repas le plus facile que vous puissiez préparer et de vous asseoir ensemble à une heure tardive, car vous avez tous les deux eu une journée difficile. C’est quand vous vous sentez dépressif et que votre amoureux se couche tout prêt de vous, vous tient et vous dit que tout va bien aller, et tu le crois.

… Car il n’y a rien de si ennuyeux qui ne soit pas facilement supporté par un couple quand ils sont concordants et sont prêts à le supporter en commun. Hierocles

C’est de toujours aimer quelqu’un même si parfois ils vous rendent complètement fou. Aimer quelqu’un n’est pas toujours facile, parfois c’est difficile. Mais c’est incroyable et réconfortant et l’une des meilleures choses que vous puissiez vivre.

The Word is LOVE!

Mon Avantage…

4 raisons pourquoi seulement 8 % d’entre nous atteindront nos buts.

Vous lisez souvent sur mon blog, établir des objectifs est la pierre angulaire d’une vie réussie. Une vie que vous voulez créer et qui repose sur des valeurs que vous estimez profondément. Alors pourquoi quelque chose de simple peut-il être inatteignable pour tant de gens ? Comment plus facile ça peut être ? Établir les objectifs et le faire.

Je veux partager avec vous l’avantage injuste que j’ai, sur la façon de réaliser tout ce que je veux dans ma vie. Le processus est simple. Vous direz même que vous saviez tout ça d’avance. Alors pourquoi êtes-vous toujours pris a rêver d’une vie différente et ne faisant rien ?

La facilité ne compromet pas l’effort requis pour mettre en œuvre les 4 étapes suivantes. Votre engagement sera la clé de votre succès. Sans cela, rien ne deviendra une réussite. Vous ferez partie des 92 % qui ne voient pas leurs projets mûrir.

Projetez-vous dans votre avenir souhaité.

Placez-vous dans un espace où vous avez déjà atteint la vie que vous souhaitez. Plongez dans cette vie future et créez un nouvel état d’esprit. Retournez-vous, regardez l’année passée et où vous étiez avant d’atteindre ce nouvel avenir. Faites de cet exercice une habitude. Et comme toutes habitudes, cela deviendra une routine et vous adopterez ce nouveau sentiment d’accomplissement avant qu’il survienne. Réfléchissez ce que vous voulez dans la vie. Ne laissez pas cet aspect au hasard et le résultat être contrôlé par d’autre. Avoir une vision claire et précise. Avoir du succès avant qu’il ne se produise.

Je demanderais à n’importe qui, et tous seraient capables de se prononcer sur les résultats qu’ils ne souhaitent pas dans la vie. Les gens sont tellement concentrés sur ce qu’ils ne veulent pas, qu’ils perdent de vue leurs rêves. Lorsque vient le temps d’identifier leurs désirs, ils paralysent. Pire encore, ils ne peuvent même pas en nommer un.

Concentrez-vous sur ce phare qui définit votre avenir. Restez concentré, prenez le contrôle, créez le résultat souhaité.

Apprenez à dire NON.

J’estime cette étape, comme le plus difficile pour beaucoup de personnes. C’est refuser les invitations. Ne pas regarder votre série préférée à la télévision ce soir. Cela implique également de fermer votre téléphone, vos courriels, Facebook et oublier certaines soirées écrasées sur le divan.

Prenez les décisions difficiles dans votre vie qui dissocieront les actions positives des actions gaspilleuses de temps. Oui, vous devrez faire face à des situations dans lesquelles vous devrez refuser une invitation d’un ami proche. Ils seront déçus de vous, encore plus si cela se produit régulièrement. Le refus d’invitation devrait arriver plus souvent que vous croyez si vous voulez apporter des changements à votre vie. Dites NON aux gaspilleurs de temps.

Si vos objectifs exigent que vous conduisiez vers le nord, conduisez vers le nord. Restez à l’écart des routes secondaires où les distractions veulent vous mener. Dirigez votre véhicule dans la bonne direction et demeurez sur la bonne voie. Appliquez les freins et faire demi-tour, virer à gauche ou à droite ne fera que vous mettre dans la mauvaise direction. Une fois que vous déviez, vous devrez redoubler d’efforts pour vous remettre sur la bonne voie.

Est-ce que cette route me mène à mon objectif, au style de vie que je veux, au travail que je veux, au conjoint que je veux être, au parent que je veux être ? Vais-je atteindre le succès, la santé et la liberté que je veux ? Ce chemin a parcourir me guidera vers le futur voulu ? Si c’est le cas, foncez. Mais si ce n’est pas le cas, corrigez le cap immédiatement. Apprenez à dire non aussi rapidement et aussi souvent que vous estimer nécessaire.

Ajoutez des émotions.

Les gens créent des objectifs sans aucun lien émotionnel. Des résolutions sont créées chaque année et ne se réalisent pas, car aucune émotion ne leur est attachée. Je veux perdre du poids, je veux une nouvelle voiture, je veux voyager plus, je veux ci, je veux ça.

Vous devez amener votre cœur dans l’équation. Sans émotion, rien de vous poussera à accomplir quoi que ce soit. Les objectifs que vous souhaitez atteindre doivent avoir un lien profond en vous. Avec votre esprit, vous devenez tactique et avec votre cœur, les émotions vous conduiront aux résultats. Les émotions sont le moteur qui guide vos actions vers le succès.

Vos sentiments vont ancrer la vie que vous voulez créer au plus profond de vous. Lorsque vous portez attention à l’émotion, tout devient personnel et douloureux quand rien ne se produit. Amenez votre cœur dans le jeu et remarquez les changements. Lorsque vous mettez une émotion derrière un objectif, les résultats positifs s’amorcent.

Écris-le.

Cette action est souvent négligée. Aucune importance n’y est attachée. Les probabilités d’atteindre vos objectifs sont grandement diminuées lorsqu’ils ne sont pas écrits. Prendre ce que vous avez dans votre tête et le mettre sur papier est la meilleure action que vous puissiez faire. Avoir votre objectif écrit crée également une responsabilité envers vous-même et les gens autour de vous.

Soudain, le rêve devient un objectif. Ce qui reste dans votre tête restera pour toujours un rêve qui alimentera la déception. Lorsque vous l’écrivez, vous créez une étape importante sur la route vers votre succès. Tout devient réalité et les possibilités sont infinies.

Ne qualifier par vos objectifs de grands ou petits, ils sont tous réalisables. Entrez dans la boîte du frappeur et frappez un coup de circuit. Ne faites pas partie des 92 %, mais des 8 % qui atteindront leurs objectifs qu’ils se sont fixés. Ne regardez pas en arrière et foncez vers le futur souhaité !

Stop Being Stupid, in the face of failure.

What if told our problems originate from us? What would you say if I told you, you’re the instigator of your failures? Would you berate me? Would you insult me by saying I don’t understand?

We tend to shine the spotlight on our good deeds but turn it off when success eludes us. In both cases we consider these situations as opposite. We treat them differently. We elevate success while we hide failure.

It should be the opposite. Failure must have the brightest light thrown upon it. Place it on a pedestal for all to see. Because within every failed attempt at something hides a lesson to learn from. And if you don’t emphasis the failure, how can the lesson be discovered?

Society has put so much emphasis on success and winning that an illusion was born out of it, blinding us to the fact that there is something else that supports each and every accomplishment.

We look at successful people and we don’t see the failures and obstacles they had to surmount to achieve their goals. Take Steve Jobs, for example. We see innovation and changes to an industry. Great products evolved from his success and determination. The company Jobs created offers a profound impact on the world. In the face of his success hides failure. He was fired from the board of his company. He was forced out of Apple.

Can you imagine being in his shoes, forced out of the company you created? All this spells failure. Jobs didn’t act stupid and hide his head in the sand. He didn’t abandon any of his goals. He starts a new company called NeXT. Jobs bought a computer division from George Lucas and calls it Pixar. Innovation until Apple crawled back to him to ask him back to the company. The rest is history.

He didn’t act stupid and so, shouldn’t you. Embrace failure and flaunt it. Because without it, success doesn’t happen. Michael Jordan didn’t even make the varsity basketball team at his high school. He was placed on the junior varsity team. That was a devastating failure for Jordan. After picking himself up off the floor, Jordan did what champions do. He let his failure and disappointment drive him to work harder. He played on the junior varsity team, and he worked himself to the limit. It became a pattern throughout Jordan’s life that a disappointment or setback resulted in a redoubling of effort.

Now when you face a challenge or a setback, don’t hide from it. Use it as the fuel to drive yourself to new heights. Dissect the obstacle and find a way to overcome it. Don’t be stupid in the face of failure. Act upon it and create the success that you want for yourself.

A Leader in You.

Are you in front or just staying back and following?

We have so many books, videos, self-proclaimed « I have the answer to everything » gurus on leadership and what it takes to get ahead in life. What if it’s not getting ahead, we are seeking in our lives. Why not just live a full and happy life. A life that you decide the outcome.

Yes, it involves being comfortable with yourself, whether it’s physically or mentally. What you are seeking also has to drive your actions and be a determining factor in all decision you make day in and day out.

Getting ahead in life is related closely to be a leader.

– A leader for us or those close to us.

– A leader at work or in your relationships.

– A leader for your children.

– A leader for your loved ones.

– Most importantly, a leader for yourself.

What is a leader? It’s not usually what pops into everyone’s mind when the question is asked. It is a person that has a vision of what his or her life is about. It’s a person with goals. A person that is unstoppable in the face of any obstacles. A leader thrives on hurdles to jump over. When things go wrong or not as planned, a leader raises its head and overcomes. Nothing can stop them. This person, when you talk to them, always has an open mind and stays positive in any situation. The judgment of others is so far on their minds, that they almost never judge.

A leader is always discovered or sometimes starts out as an introvert. I’m not talking about a recluse or an isolated person. They are the one in the room that move around without getting noticed but everyone remembers meeting them. They bring new ideas to a conversation without pushing any agenda. Their input and opinion are sought after. You want to stay close to them for all the positive energy that is generated around them.

When do these leaders show their face? When do you really notice them? Well, you don’t really, except when things don’t go as planned. That is when they surface to take responsibility. They stay in front of every situation not to take the credit, but to be accountable for the results. Leaders are the first in the line of fire taking the hits and critics. When credit is due, they fade into the background and step out of the spotlight to let others shine.

Look around you, there is always one. Maybe not easy to notice but they are there. A leader is not a « boss ». He or she doesn’t look down on anyone. They always find a way to raise others above themselves. A leader is on the frontline elbow to elbow with everyone and weathering the storms.

Next time you are at a meeting, in a crowd or at some place where there are lots of people. Try to identify a leader. Don’t look at the obvious. Look in the corners and in the shadows. I also dare you to look inside yourself, maybe the LEADER is hiding there.

Are you a leader?

GOOD vs GREAT

Good or great, what is the difference that separates both types of salespeople? To be good or great often seems to be the same. Both have targets to achieve. Both have budgets to meet. Both have the same hurdles to overcome. Reading this would raise the question, what separates the two.

Good has a reasonable budget without knocking down any walls. All targets are easily attainable with the right effort put in place the reach them. Being Good is not bad, it’s just not earth shattering results. The mindset is based on predictable outcomes. Setting goals that are impossible not to reach. Key performance targets are based on opinions like : We are predicting a market slowdown, we should be conservative with our targets. Ambitious goals are never put in place. Responsibility is not taken.

The Great take the same budget and look at it without any biases and evaluates what would be an objective that drives change. Their professional goal will drive their decisions and not the opposite. Yes maybe the market will falter in the next months. What can be done to lessen the effects and reach the goals. This is a question often asked in these situations by the Great.

Self-pity is not in their habits. Blaming others or situations for their failures is NEVER used as an excuse. They are responsible for any outcomes and personally take full ownership.

Why does good feel great? It feels great because of non ambitions goals are always reached. Easily attainable goals are set year after year. This is not bad but it’s not over and above effort. Responsibility is not taken. When you punch in at work every day and go through the motions without any specific goal, things will happen. Sales will happen. Do this long enough and you will get results without additional effort.

It’s like my golf game. I love playing golf. I practice off an on. I usually play once or twice a week when I can. I’m an average player. I can hold my own against other players. Then some rounds I play, I’m on top of the world and bring in a very low score card. I know why this happens. It’s beacause I have no specific goals or actions in place to go from good to great. I’m satisfied with my rounds. What if I put in place actions to change my average to 80 and stick to these actions at any cost? I will average 80.

Play long enough and you will have an average round and once in a while that great round will pop up. Then back to normal you go. It’s exactly the same in sales. What if you align your sales goals with YOUR goals; like double you bonus each year.

Greatness is a goal that happen over a period of time and it’s difficult. Be the one on your team that sets out to accomplish what seems almost impossible to others. Do it for yourself and not just to prove to other that you can. Others will make you fell like that. Don’t give in and stay your course.

Don’t be the squirrel chasing after every nut on the ground. Keep your focus on your objective. Do not get distracted by anything or anyone. You will have days that will weigh heavy on you and giving up will start to be an option. Stop and take a step back. Ask why you are doing this. Feel the pain of failure.

Greatness seem like a miracle, but when it happens, you look back and you see all the roadblocks that where erected and knocked down one by one. The extraordinary effort you put forth in reaching this level. This is a lonely road to travel. All the Good around you will see you struggle and fight to reach your objective. Comments will be said pertaining to your failures. Questions regarding these decisions will be asked. You will be the only one that will see the reward. Greatness will be revealed to you and all the responsibility and accountability you set on yourself will be empowering.

Greatness is easily described by

Unwavering faith.
Extraordinary decisions.
Consistency over a long period of time.

Unwavering faith in each decisions is one of the most important aspect in Greatness. When you feel discouraged on the path to reaching your goals, only put one knee down and lift your head up. Everyone and everything will seem to be pushing you down. This isn’t what is happening, you are the one pushing yourself down. You have control of how you react. Get up and keep moving forward. Because in your heart, you know that your journey will bring you to your objective.

Extraordinary decisions and being consistent over time will creat a snipers focus. Predictable outcomes are not decided upon, they are created through the goals that you what to achieve.

The step from Good to Great is based on mindset. Change your mindset, it will drive you to achievements you only see in your dreams. Nothing is stoping you except you. Change your mind and change your life.

Put Thant Cell Down!

Please put that cell down. Stop looking constantly at that time draining tool that will not move you forward towards anything great in your day. The cell…a necessary evil. But we need to take control of our phone and stop letting IT take control of our lives.

Try this the next time you pick up the phone, start a timer. Or even easier, look at the time indicated at the top corner. After a few seconds, that time will disappear from your line of sight and disappear from your focus. Then look at it when you are finished whatever your where looking at. You are in for a big surprise, 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes + has passed since looking at the time, for what? FB, Instagram, Youtube or any time draining app. Even the time spend looking at email each second or when a notification bleeps on your phone.

5 minutes doesn’t look like a whole lot of, but count the amount of times you look at you phone during one day. This evaluation will shock you.

Why do we have to stand at attention at each moment our cell bleeps, pings or rings? We let this thing take over. We bow to it as if it’s the all mighty. Thinking something bad will happen if we do not pay attention. We even put more attention to our cell phone then our children. How many times have I seen parents surrender all their attention to their phones in the presence of their children. Nothing would pull them away from their screens, but for a very brief warning to their child not to bother anybody, meaning not to bother them on their phone.

This is a great one. Couples at a restaurant sitting for a romantic evening pull their cells out and put them on the table. All evening peaking at the screen not to miss anything important. What could be more important then the time spent with a loved one?

I was at tennis practice for the son of a friend. The kids practicing were having a blast. All smiles, they would turn to their parents in the stand to see if mom or dad is seeing all the great things they are doing. They were wanting some small acknowledgment that the parent is happy for them and proud. Nope, nothing, no reaction from mom or dad. Of course not, they could not see their kid, all their attention is on the screens of their phones. For loves sake, its your kid out their having fun and wanting to show you. Instagram is more important? Wake up from your daze, you will regret not paying attention to these small moments. They add up to a life.

One of my favourite is walking taking the subway and looking at people moving from one station to another. All you can see is bowed heads praying to their cell screens, completely oblivious to their surroundings. What is fascinating, is they barely bump into anything. They walk down stairs effortlessly. There are zombies.

No, no, no…this one is even better; at a concert and seeing lots of fans not look at the show but looking at their screens while recording the show. Why bother attending the concert? You are not even looking at it live, you are looking at the show through your phone. Stay home and save some money. Just buy the concert on DVD or download the show. It will better recorded then on your cell.

Untether yourself from your cellular phones. Try to do this:

Leave the phone at home.
Turn all notifications off.
Place the phone on « do not disturb »
DON’T LOOK AT THE PHONE.

This will be very uncomfortable at first. You will go through withdrawal. What you will notice is all the cool things happening around you that you knew was there but wasn’t paying any attention. You will see your child smile at you with all their love.