In this fast-paced world, have you ever taken a moment to catch a breath and staying happy today? As the global pandemic threatens the lives of many, the majority of us were suddenly forced to stay indoors. Strict physical distancing is observed. Not even a haircut is possible.
Now, it seems like the world is in slow-mo. We’ve been abruptly detached from our usual routines, but we finally have time we can call “ours”. Suddenly, we’ve become more aware of ourselves, our needs, and our actions for this day.
Don’t get me wrong, focusing your energy for today does not mean you don’t care about tomorrow, it just means you could focus on things you have right in front of you. After all, you only live once, right?
How are you, really?
Have you asked yourself recently, as you live day by day in this loud and chaotic world, how are you? When you wake up in the morning and prepare for the day, or while you’re sitting in your car driving, what do you have in mind?
We all have that tendency of looking straight, far from our standpoint, that we fail to see the path we are currently taking. There is nothing wrong with planning for tomorrow, for the future belongs to those who prepare for it today.
Others drag their past and bring them to their present. When you do this, you lose your future. It is very important to keep the learnings from the past because it is something we can no longer alter.
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”– Albert Einstein
A “me time” is one way of showing self-love. Self-love is the language of self-awareness. It gives you an imaginary guide of positive and graceful thinking towards yourself. In all the days of your life thinking about other people, it is very vital that you take time to rest and just think of yourself and what makes you happy.
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and meditate. Give yourself at least 5-10 minutes per day. Having this very important “me time” allows you to be mindful of your present situation. It helps clear your head so you can focus on your now, and focus on yourself.
Only when you love yourself enough will you be more understanding of your uniqueness and individuality. Self-awareness can empower you to make changes and big decisions in life. It also helps you make unbiased opinions about yourself, what you are good at, and what you need to improve on. By being self-aware, you will be able to face your present with grace, even under pressure.
How to level up your self-awareness
Know your strengths and weaknesses
Even famous superheroes are not perfect. Just like how Kryptonite weakens Superman, in reality, we all have weaknesses. But that doesn’t mean we can’t do anything about it. We are not just made of weaknesses. We also have a lot of strengths.
As you assess and specify your strong and weak points, it’s powerful to use them for your own good. If you’re not that good at singing but can write well, why not choose to write some songs for someone you believe has an amazing voice? Not that good at sports but you have awesome skills with strategic planning? Why not try to apply as a coach and manage a team? With all your strengths and weaknesses, you can learn how to use each of them as a stepping stone to reach your dreams and goals in life.
Open your mind for feedbacks
Amine Ayad, a professor, and writer, once said, “Be humble to see your mistakes, courageous to admit them, and wise enough to correct them.” True enough, we really need courage when facing our mistakes.
It’s essential for us humans to open ourselves up to hearing the feedback of other people. Since we only get the chance to see ourselves in front of a mirror, our flaws and mistakes would be greatly observed by the people around us. Be receptive and assess their opinions. While not everything is good, you can always learn and use those to improve and become the best version of yourself.
Set your boundaries
Knowing your limits can make you avoid emotional triggers and break down. It makes you more disciplined to maintain focus on making sure you do not go beyond control. It will eventually help you create healthy habits that will be beneficial in your day to day activities.
When we get to know ourselves even more, we will be able to know our limits and set our boundaries.
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how to use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and will not accept.” – Anna Taylor
How to start your self-care
Self-awareness is tough without self-acceptance. Acceptance makes an incredible fertile soil for the seed of change, for we cannot change anything unless we accept it. As we learn to know ourselves better, we begin to welcome our flaws as part of our true selves. We give ourselves credit for our strengths and make us more confident in facing the world even if we are blemished.
Full self-acceptance makes the foundation of trust within ourselves. No matter how harsh the world can be, we can take criticism in a more positive way, better than those who take it as a personal attack rather than an opportunity for growth.
The moment you open your eyes after a good night’s sleep, you have your first reason to be thankful, for you have another day to live while others don’t. When you have food on your table, you have every reason to be grateful for having something to eat while others don’t.
There are instances when we get to finish tasks on time, and oftentimes it goes unnoticed. Sometimes, we don’t need someone else to pat us on the back when we accomplish things. Be sure to thank yourself for finishing another task. By being grateful, it gives you that sense of being blessed, no matter how small or big things can be.
Be ready for change
As we get to be more aware of ourselves, we begin to accept that we are impaired and not perfect. You see, we cannot change what we are not aware of. Once we are aware of our flaws, we cannot help but change it for the better.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom, mastering yourself is true power. It may be a little uncomfortable because it might be different from your norm, but beginning the first step for improvement will help you start living a genuine life. Remember, small changes eventually add up to huge results. We may not see the difference as we begin, but we can definitely see the changes in the end.
You only live once, so live it the way you want to.
“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.” – Wayne Dyer
Stay focused on living a happy life, you will eventually realize that any time spent being unhappy is a wasted opportunity.