It’s Your Life, It’s Your Time


Have you ever felt unproductive when a certain day ends? When all of your plans don’t happen the way you want them to be, you suddenly feel guilty.

There are so many ways to manage our time. All of us are given 24 hours in a day but how do we use it? Time flies so fast not realizing the day is already over. Time seems to be so short. It’s like today you’re here, and tomorrow you’re gone. Have you done the things that really matter to you? If not, now is the best time to do it. There may not be a tomorrow for us in this busy life of ours, so if not now, then when?

The essence of time lies in our own hands. We have the capacity to choose how we will make it worthwhile whilst enjoying the time that we have and whom we have to spend it with. I hope we will all get to know it so we’ll not regret what wasted time we’re going to have if we continue to just hurry and go with the flow.


What Happens When We Lose Control

Blaming others. Some of us tend to blame others for being unproductive throughout the day. Others would always find someone to blame for their own mistakes. There are even instances when, knowingly or unknowingly, we put down people who are unable to take their own responsibilities in a way we want them to, especially when they end up messing our own timelines.

In a work setting and even at home, it’s understandable to want to take on a mountain of tasks in a single day by getting help from someone else. However, people can only work to a certain extent that sometimes it is impossible to block together certain tasks in a single day. As the saying goes, “Rome was not built in a day.” Putting blame on yourself or others because your ideal timeline wasn’t followed isn’t going to do any good for anyone.

Self-destruction. There are a number of people who are born to be strongly connected with their emotions. When these people are routinely put in situations that are emotionally taxing, they may feel greatly overwhelmed by things they can’t control. So, there’s a high chance that they will eventually try to “turn off” the pain. At first, they may tell themselves: “I’m just going to try not to feel” or “I’m just not going to think about it.” Over time, they may feel as if they needed additional help in turning off these painful emotions. If you’re like this, then your likelihood of self-destructing is high. 

Depression. Some of us can feel sad, empty, hopeless, lost, and irritable in some instances. Have you lost interest or pleasure in your hobbies or being with friends and even family because you feel like there’s always not enough time? Are you having trouble sleeping at night, eating, and functioning in your daily routines because you keep thinking about things you didn’t or couldn’t do today? You may feel trapped in a vicious cycle of planning your day and ending up not being able to do anything. When you try to control things, you have no way of controlling, you will end up wasting time thinking about what should be done without working on it until you’re not able to do anything at all.


Change Your Mindset to Control Time

As they say, “One can live for weeks without food and days without water, but no one can live one second without time,” and that is very true no matter who or what we are in this life. No amount of influence, power, money, and even fame can change the fact that when your time is up, you are done. In this fleeting existence, one cannot say where this life can take us, and so we have to understand that even though we cannot ever control time, the least we can do is change how we see it.

Determine the mindset you need and act on it. People nowadays are pressured to try and get more things done that time management has become a critical skill in this modern time. They say your thoughts become your reality and that whatever you seek, you attract. If you keep on telling yourself that “I am not good enough for this and that,” you’re wasting precious time manifesting these negative thoughts and not doing anything.

But if you start telling yourself, “I got this!” this will encourage a mindset of positivity instead of fear that will push you towards reaching your goal. Keep in mind that a positive brain is more productive, more creative, and more engaged. While it is true that the real essence of time varies from one person to another, it is still important to plan ahead and act towards your set goals.

Create new habits. The key to creating positive habits is by being consistent with what you do. It can be fun to start a new routine and find new ways to make time work for you. But you must be willing to substitute new cues, routines, and rewards just in case the first plan doesn’t work out. Start looking at how you sleep, what you eat, what mindset you’re attracting, and make it a priority to care for yourself rather than injecting more work in your calendar by sacrificing your time for rest and relaxation.

Take a look at your calendar and omit anything that could be consuming your time and energy and replace it with activities that promote self-care like a short leisurely walk outside or sipping a cup of tea by the window. These small changes will set out the foundation for a healthy mind and will help you learn to prioritize.

Having the right mindset must also come with the ability to create new habits that will go along with your path in developing your life’s true essence. While some people value material things in life, I value my peace of mind. I created a space for clarity and being at peace with what I do and do not have. I can’t also imagine clutter within my sight as it clouds my head, and that birthed another habit in helping me value my time and energy.

Challenge your thoughts. Our mind is a powerful thing, and the biggest challenge is happening between our two ears. The way you perceive your life is what makes you happy or unhappy. You can confront your beliefs by weighing things that emphasize the good and bad in life or thinking of how to improve ours as well as others’ living standards. With this pandemic at large, what do you do to keep you and your family safe? How do you keep yourself informed? What can you do to keep your thoughts active?

Learning is a continuous process. What you know now may not be true years later, so you have to keep feeding yourself with new knowledge. Instead of dwelling on things you can’t control, it would be best to spend time doing things that will enhance your mind or see the world in a whole new light amidst the hubbub that’s spreading around you.


How to Spend Time Wisely

Time always seems to stop when I’m on the right track. Time is always on my side if I act on the actions to be taken. If I spend my time analyzing and doing non-productive things, time disappears and slips through my fingers like sand. This mentality is under my control. I have my hand on the tap. The flow is adjusted by me. Nothing else controls the flow.

Time is the only thing we can’t get back when it’s lost, and to make sure it is spent wisely, we have to stay in charge of it rather than time keeping a firm grasp on us. You are the master of your own time, and you decide how you run your day. The first thing in the morning, write down your goals and prioritize those you think will you win the day. In this way, you can adjust your time accordingly and help you avoid spending too much time on things that require the least amount of attention.

Appreciate the time you’ve been given and never stop learning ways to make it all worth your while. There’s nothing wrong with hard work and perseverance, but being too eager to do too much may lead to overworking yourself that you forget the most essential parts of your being. Know your own limits. You don’t have to fill up every second of the day only to end up feeling overwhelmed. No matter how busy you want to be to feel a sense of fulfillment, never leave out from your schedule a part of your life that makes you human. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break once in a while. After that, you will feel much better about yourself and think as if you can take on anything that life throws at you.

If you have too many tasks or goals to accomplish, you may need to ask for a hand or to delegate responsibilities. This can help free much of your time to work on other projects. Finally, don’t forget to thank the person or give a reward in exchange for the help you have received. It doesn’t have to be anything grand. You’ll be surprised to know how a simple gratitude note can go a long way.

Remember that time is too valuable just to be spent on things that make you unhappy or on things that don’t get you any closer to your goals. Learn to say no and not be guilty of not doing something you don’t want to. At the end of the day, you’re the only one who can decide how you want to spend your time.


I take control of my time by making decisions and then taking action immediately on important things to move me towards my goal.

It is never too late to take time and go back to the basics. Know what matters and stick with it until you reach your goal. Be realistic with your expectations and know that good change doesn’t happen overnight. Time is a resource that’s easy to waste, so plan ahead and remember to act on it soon after. Benjamin Franklin wrote, “You may delay, but time will not.” Time will keep ticking and certainly will not wait on anyone, whether we like it or not.