Take five minutes of your time and find a mirror. Place yourself in front of this mirror, what do you see? The person looking back at you is who you always wanted to become. If it’s not, then who is looking back? Like it or not, you are you, the person you created.
From the good to the bad, happy or sad, you have evolved into the person that your actions created. Unfortunately, so many people disagree with this statement. Every time I’m in a discussion with others regarding, what we want in life, it always comes down to justifying their lives. I hear in-depth explanations why they have to postpone their retirement. Reasons are put forward why it’s difficult for them to lose weight. Why having financial freedom will never be possible for them. Then they get into; that’s what life threw at me, that’s the hand I was dealt, I have to live with it. Wow isn’t that a bowl of crap.
Is it so important to explain and justify everything that went wrong in your life? So much importance is attached to negative events, they become your reality. A reality shaped by other people’s opinions. Each and every day you have relinquished the control and outcome of your life to others. You surrendered your desired life for a compromised one. Concessions that were slowly adopted one by one until you woke one day and looked into that mirror, just to discover, that person staring back at you isn’t exactly the one you planned to become.
This process that we submit ourselves to daily, suddenly overwhelms us. Without even noticing the rising tide before it’s too late to do anything. Don’t make this mistake and believe that nothing can change. It’s never too late to create the desired outcome and no one can stop you. But then, you have the people that know their life is exactly what they want it to be. They’re satisfied with what they see in the mirror. The next group of people, that are the majority, when questioned they start to explain some of their shortcomings. Telling stories to make others understand their situation and why nothing can change for them.
Does the following conversation sound familiar?
Jack: I would have liked to retire sooner.
Jill: Why don’t you?
Jack: Well as you know, I got divorced a few years ago.
Jill: Yes, so?
Jack: You don’t understand, my spouse got half of everything I saved.
Jill: Why is that a problem?
Jack: Well, I can see that you haven’t gone through a similar situation. Now I can’t retire when I wanted to, because I financially can’t.
Jill: I still don’t see the reason why you can’t. Why didn’t you adapt your retirement plan to compensate for that unfortunate episode in your life?
Jack: There was nothing I could do. That was the hand I was dealt.
Jill: You can’t accomplish your retirement goals because of the hand you were dealt, why? You had and still have all the control on your desired outcome.
Jack: Easy for you to say. You didn’t have to go through what went through.
Jill: Well a matter of fact I did. Seeing that I had to change my retirement plan or else retire 10 years later with half the money, I planned to have, I made a decision not to duel on the negative aspects of the situation and create a new plan that put me back on track.
Jack: It’s different for me and you had it easy.
Jill: Easy! What do you know about easy? The path I took involved many compromises. I had to reorient different aspects of my life to be able to reach my goals. This was difficult. I knew I was preparing myself for a difficult journey. A journey that will help me achieve what I originally planned for. Now I will retire even earlier than planned.
Jack: Good for you. I wished I had your resolve.
Can you see the pattern in Jack’s reasoning? The only thing he’s trying to do is justify his life. He thinks he’s explaining to Jill, he isn’t. He’s convincing himself that nothing different could have been done. The actions or lack of, was the correct path to take and no other options were available to Jack. He’s trying to make himself comfortable with his choices by explaining them to the people that are willing to listen.
These patterns are easily identified in society. You can see them in coworkers, friends and family. The same excuses are used for any shortcomings. I call this a disease of the mind. Yes, you read correctly, it’s a self-inflicted disease generated by repeating to yourself on a daily basis … I CAN’T! A mental sickness that we introduce into our brains without paying attention. Some people are so hypnotized by these habits; they don’t even notice them anymore. It has become a personality trait.
There is only one cure to this disease. The requirement is a complete change of mindset in your abilities and perceptions of any desired outcome. Your mindset has to shift from a victim’s point of view to a creative perspective on life. You have to master and take control of your life. You have to repeat out loud each day…
I CAN ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING I WANT
IF I’M WILLING TO PAY THE PRICE OF GREATNESS!
There is a huge price to pay for your personal greatness. Committing to change your mindset is something I wish on everyone. It will liberate you from the shackles of mediocrity. Don’t step away after reading this article thinking it’s easy to change. Nothing is easy about changing habits and beliefs that have been hypnotizing you for so long. It will create an overwhelming feeling of freedom. It’s difficult to explain in words. Just do it and discover your true life’s calling. It has always been inside you, waiting to be released.
Today I was listening to song “This is the day” of a band I like a lot, The The. Here are the lyrics of the chorus to set you off on your new journey:
This is the day—your life will surely change.
This is the day—when things fall into place.