The definition of tolerate is “allow the existence, occurrence, or practice of (something that one doesn’t necessarily like or agree with) without interference.”
The patterns and beliefs that you open the door to, will shape the results you’re trying to achieve. What you put up with, becomes what you get.
We live in a world of ABUSE. We abuse everything around us. We abuse ourselves and each other. We abuse time, our talent, our high standards, language, laws, the truth and common sense. We abuse them all.
I know this may offend some, but we tolerate mediocrity and low standards. If you tolerate excuses, then you will always find a reason not to do or accomplish anything. If you tolerate missed deadlines, underperformance will always be the result. Procrastination is a self-defeating habit, tolerating it has an obvious outcome.
Tolerating low quality, diminishes the opportunities of others to conduct business with you. You paint an average image for others to see. If you tolerate not being on time and being late to meetings, you set a negative precedent to your character. If you tolerate laziness, you will always be struggling to make ends meets and honour deadlines. Tolerating any of these will compromise and waste the one life, you have to live.
Reward good behaviour.
Every time something great happens in your life, reward yourself. This will create a feeling of accomplishment and create repetition. So set the bar very high and reach for it. Establish what is acceptable and what isn’t in your life. Don’t let others do this for you, control your outcome and celebrate the results each and every time.
This is such an easy concept to abide by but is rarely implemented.
How do we stop abuse?
This is simple. You must have high standard in what you say and do. You must make everything count in your life, even if it looks small and unimportant. Because the failure to attach importance to any of your actions will bring you back to mediocrity.
Positive change in your life starts by changing your mindset. You must raise your standards and have ZERO tolerance toward all internal or external abuse, negativity, procrastination and excuses. DON’T tolerate anything that diminishes your self-esteem or confidence.
What are the things you won’t tolerate from yourself and others? You need to take action and pinpoint all of them. This is the only way you will start to eliminate them from your behaviour. Make a list and put it in plain sight for you to review and keep in focus.
Your life’s journey is paved with roadblocks and obstacles. Turn over every stone and pay attention to details. What you tolerate will point you in the right or wrong direction. Everything has consequences so everything counts. Frequently take the time to reflect and examine your behaviour. What are you saying about yourself, are you saying self-defeating comment on your person? Are you trying to find excuses for your failures instead of learning from them? Do you keep blaming others for your failures? Does the mental image of yourself reflect the high standards and goals in your life? Do you see yourself as a winner or loser? This process will help you master yourself.
This reflection will identify all the small details that compromised certain aspects of your life or even sully your reputation. Your unwillingness to accept anything but the best resides in the small details. The difference between a silver or gold medal is uncovered in the small details of training.
You shape your life through your mindset so create and focus on what is important and in your control. Accountability becomes a key factor to all success and a fulfilled life. Look inside and start to change your tolerance. Stop abuse before it starts. Reject and don’t tolerate any form of abuse internally or externally.
What you put up with you end up with.